| "SELF-RELIANCE has every been the best substitute for friends, influence, capital, a pedigree, or assistance. It has mastered more obstacles, overcome more difficulties, carried through more enterprises, and perfected more inventions than any other human quality.
Every normal person is capable of independence and self-reliance, yet comparatively few people ever develop their ability to stand alone. It is so much easier to lean, to trail, to follow somebody else, to let others do the thinking and the planning and the work, instead of doing it ourselves.
What is there so paralyzing to strenuous endeavor, so fatal to self-exertion, as the feeling that there is no necessity for exertion because somebody else has done everything for us!
The father, who tries to give his children a start in the world so that they will not have to struggle as hard as he had to, is unconsciously bringing disaster upon them. What the calls giving them a start in the world will more than likely give them a setback. Young people probably need all the motivation they can get. They are naturally leaners, imitators, copiers, and it is easy for them to develop into echoes, imitations. They will not walk alone while you furnish them with crutches; they will lean upon you just as long as you will let them.
It is self-help, not pulls or influence, self-reliance, not leaning, that develops stamina and strength. ‘He who sits on the cushion of advantage goes to sleep.’
It is the man who strips himself of every prop, who throws away his crutches, burns his bridges behind him, and depends upon himself, that wins. Self-reliance is the key that opens the door to achievement. Self-reliance is the unfolder of power.
It is only when the brain is tested to its utmost, when every bit of ingenuity and creativity a man possesses must come to the rescue of a possible failure, that he will develop his greatest strength. It takes months and years of effort to stretch small capital over a large business without disaster.
It is when money is scarce and business is dull, that the real man is making his greatest progress. Where there is no struggle, there is no growth, no character."
- Orison Swett Marden |